If Nothing Changes, Nothing Changes

Our youngest, Sammy, NEVER thought of herself as a hands-on, creative person. This semester she is taking a course in flower arranging and is so excited she gave this scary adventure a try. It’s her new passion!

Our youngest, Sammy, NEVER thought of herself as a hands-on, creative person. This semester she is taking a course in flower arranging and is so excited she gave this scary adventure a try. It’s her new passion!

Maybe its human nature, so I have to ask: Am I the only one who wants things (lots of things) to be different than they presently are, BUT continues to do the same thing I’ve always done? Not necessarily big things, it can be very small, simple things. For example:

  1. I get angry when my eyebrow pencil lead breaks with the smallest amount of pressure, BUT, I continue to buy Cover Girl (yes, I did say the brand name!) eyebrow pencils. I’ve bought them for 15+ years and that’s approximately how long they’ve been frustrating me. And, it’s usually when I’m in a time crunch.

  2. I’d really like the interior of my car to be cleaner, spill free, stain free. But don’t ask me to go without the drink I drag along everywhere I go. That’s a crazy idea! And, I’m definitely not the girl who is going to carry one extra item from my car into the house everyday to maintain a neat interior. I just WANT my car to be cleaner, spill free and stain free. Can anybody relate?

There are two expressions that aren’t new to me. However, I have needed to keep them front and center in order to shift some of my thinking and gain the positive benefits:

1) IF NOTHING CHANGES, NOTHING CHANGES.

2) INSANITY IS DOING THE SAME THING OVER AND OVER AND EXPECTING DIFFERENT RESULTS.

When the New Year rolled around, I challenged myself to look at change a little differently. Kind of like an adventure. Instead of slumping into the “same ole same ole”, I started with little changes. Maybe driving a different route to the regular destination and embracing the new scenery. Or, trying something weird at a restaurant, simply for the experience of having tried it. Super simple changes that started to spark some new life into my old norm.

Now, I’m operating on a larger scale. I’ve been making regular lunch dates with those friends I’m ‘always going to get together with’. I took a social trip to New Jersey one weekend and went on a silent retreat in Kentucky the next. Today, unbeknownst to my husband, I’m going to rearrange some furniture! Making changes opens up new opportunities and allows me to feel more alive.

Our new home in our new neighborhood was probably one of the biggest decisions for change Scott and I have made in the past 5 years. But, the benefits have been amazing and I’m so grateful we took the plunge into the unknown! The other day my girlfriend said, “I love being at your house. I could come in, roll up on the couch and take a nap, it is just that homey!”

Change can be scary or uncomfortable. Heck, that’s why we choose to stay the same, even when life isn’t working all that well. But, finding out what’s waiting for us on the other side is something we ALL deserve. Absurd as it seems, we are often the only ones keeping it from happening!



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